All of those frustrating moments, reoccurring fights and nagging feelings are trying to tell you something. That is your subconscious trying to break through to you. An executive coach I know uses the analogy of trying to drive a car when the alignment is off. If you take your hands off the wheel for only a moment, your car will pull to one side or the other. You have to really steer hard to keep going straight. The minute you start to relax your grip on the wheel, the alignment error starts messing with your lane choice.
This is what its like when your conscious life (job, family, day to day activities) isn’t lined up with what you really want, in your subconscious. The alignment is your subconscious and the car/wheel is your conscious mind. Where does your mind go when you daydream? When you get frustrated, where do you wish you were? You might start to fleetingly question things ... Gee, should I be drinking this much? Or, am I an emotional eater? Wait, did I pick that fight, or did he?